Dianna Martino - Holistic Naturopath & Coach

Holistic Adelaide Naturopath

Fear and Pregnancy

Pregnancy can bring up fears in many women. Fear of the perceived pain of childbirth, looking after a baby, bodily changes, relationship issues or unresolved emotional anxieties are a few examples. Each woman is different and has a different path to take, a different perception of her experiences and handles these challenges in her own way. I believe that if you can meet these fears head on, you can understand them, feel them, allow them to process, then you can move through them. You can be free of them. The way to do this is through a means that feels right to you.

Facing your fears can be scary, and I completely understand why people may prefer to distract themselves and not feel the discomfort and intensity of fear. But unfortunately this strategy does not tend to allow the fear to leave, it just suppresses it further. The body still needs to deal with these unresolved emotions, whether you and your conscious mind want to or not. Just remember, once you decide to face these emotions- they are just emotions. They may feel uncomfortable, but they are part of our human experience and when you allow them to flow you feel once again in harmony with the universe around you. You are no longer stuck and you can see clearly. You don’t have to control yourself so much and hold back, you develop empathy and understanding, not only for yourself but for others too. Your body can relax. You start to live a more authentic life.

Once you have faced your fears and unresolved subconscious emotions, you can choose what you would like instead. I want to have a pleasant birth and I surrender to my body and baby. I can breathe and relax during labour. I am supported. You can start to choose your focus and what you want, instead of being overcome with fear and using all your energy to keep pushing it away.

Some methods to achieve subconscious resolution of fears and emotions that I have found personally effective include Neuro Emotional Technique (NET), Psych-K and hypnotherapy. Find an experienced practitioner who specialises in working with pregnant woman and choose someone who feels right to you, that you can work with to peel back the layers to find your calm centre.